EASY TECHNIQUES TO HELP YOU RELEASE STRESS AND FEEL BETTER!

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Recently I did a series of videos with my friend Joanne Tindale. This episode is all about RELAXATION TECHNIQUES. On that steaming hot day in January we had no idea of the bizarre world we’d all find ourselves in now.

As stress levels rise and fear and anxiety reach new heights, these easy ways to help soothe and calm yourself are more valuable than ever. These simple techniques I’ve picked up from yoga and a variety of healing modalities will help you release some of that tension and feel better.

Watch this quick video presentation and do the exercises along with Joanne and I,  and  you’ll be feeling much more relaxed in just minutes.

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Take some deep breaths and trust that all of this madness is in fact a deeply healing time for our world. The planet is getting to breathe deeper and we humans are getting a chance to reset our priorities and slow down.

I reckon it’s like the Earth Mother has put us all in the naughty corner for a while to, “Just have a think about our behaviour!”

I recently watched this uplifting Youtube interview with Aboriginal elder Sri Devi Mulharra and  was very happy to learn that all my freaky daily routines like grounding and tree hugging have an ancient source. I hope you’ll find it soothing to your spirit too.

Take good care of yourself and keep smiling. The world is still a beautiful place.

We’re all in this together. We always were.

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ANECDOTE vs. STORY What’s the Difference?

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When I first started writing I got a few rejections saying my pieces were anecdotes and not stories. After I’d dried my tears, I began to wonder what the difference was?

What is it that makes a story a story, and an anecdote something you tell your friends but don’t get published?

MEANING.

An ANECDOTE is an incident from our lives that we tell our mates down at the pub or over a cup of tea. This tale may have many of the elements of a story – setting, characters and action – but usually that’s it.

For example –

When people notice the scar running from my forehead down along my left temple beside my eye, I tell them an anecdote about how, when I was fourteen, I was searching for organisms out on the rocks at Deadman’s Beach (true!) during my school biology camp on Stradbroke Island.

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A huge wave came hurtling towards us and I braced myself by facing into the barnacle covered rocks, gripping on for dear life. The wave crashed over me and my classmates, and smashed my face into the rocks, dragging me as it fled back out to sea, grating my face against the barnacles. Adrenaline pumping, I scrambled to my feet and leapt  over the rocks, racing to shore where my poor teacher was greeted with a bloody mess like Sissy Spacek at the end of Carrie.

I was almost helicoptered back to Brisbane, but the local island doctor was used to shark bites and stitched my face back together again – sixty stitches in all. I wasn’t a pretty sight. Once I got back home my friend took some photos and we entered me in a Dolly Magazine Covergirl Competition. We thought we were pretty funny. Needless to say, I didn’t win 🙂

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As you can see, this anecdote has plenty of action and drama and even a happy ending. But it’s not a story. WHY?

Because it only tells what happened. An anecdote doesn’t reflect on the events and dig deeper to find meaning.

STORIES on the other hand are how humans make sense of the world and what happens to us. They delve deep into the emotional heart of what that incident meant to us and how we were changed as a result. A story creates MEANING from the meaningless.

For example –

What if I told you this accident happened only a couple of months after the death of my young father? What if I told you that when the wave hit something inside me hoped that it would tear me away and take me to where my father was. What if I wrote about how, as the doctor stitched my face back together again, he sang the Death March. What if I wrote about how my best friend tenderly helped me wash the blood out of my hair that night as I sat in a cold bath. What if I told you that I lay awake for hours in my bunk, trying to convince myself that my father’s death had been a bad dream I’d had while knocked out, that he would be waiting for me on the other side of the ferry?

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Then we’d have a story.  A story I haven’t written yet, but just might.

“Dig deeper,” I tell the memoirists I edit and teach. Don’t be afraid. Go deeper and find the true heart of your story. Turn that anecdote into something that touches people.

Have you got an anecdote or two you could dig deeper into to create meaning? Search hard enough and everything that happens has another layer of story reflecting human experience.

That’s what we writers do, we write to make sense of the world.

Want to learn more? Come along to my next retreat in the mountains with a special focus on memoir writing. Great for beginners too, and anyone needing to reboot their writing mojo!

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Let me know how you go!

Lots of love

Edwina