Write For Your Life!

These days it’s feeling more and more as if we are writing to save our lives. 

But why write at all, with the world becoming crazier by the minute and the pressures on us to toe the line, get a proper job and pay the bills increasing? 

Is it wrong to want to tell our stories, to express ourselves? Is it selfish? 

NO! 

Now more than ever the world needs people speaking their truth, telling their stories, creating and enjoying the process, filling up the oversoul with some much-needed creative joy! Expressing ourselves, whether through writing, painting, song or any other artform is an essential act of defiance against those who would have us chained to the grindstone feeding their mill. We are creatures of delight, meant to be enjoying our ride here on earth, not enduring it. 

By writing or pursuing any other art form we affirm our right to joy. Not only that, we’re expressing truths shared by many others, not just our own. One purpose of writing is to connect with others, to show them they are not alone, that we’re all in this together.

Humans have an innate need to translate our emotions into art. The ancient philosophers often spoke of Truth and Beauty as integral to our experience and the search for both has fuelled many expeditions and experiments both internal and external. Since the Greek philosophers, beauty, truth and goodness have been the aim of those searching for meaning. In his poem “Ode on a Grecian Urn“, the English Romantic poet John Keats wrote, “Beauty is truth, truth beauty—that is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know”. That is my truth.

Portrait of John Keats by William Hilton

Writing has saved my life many times over.

When I was in my teens and lost in grief, alcohol and drug addiction, I began writing a journal. At first it was just so I could remember what I’d done the night before – I wrote almost illegible recounts of my wild nights out – but soon after my journalling became much more. I started writing when sober as well as drunk, and for the first time began to express some of the emotions I was swallowing down with all that goon (cheap wine). I noticed that when I wrote my all-pervasive anxiety settled, my shoulders dropped and best of all, if I dropped into what I now call “the zone”, I could happily disappear from the chaos of the outside world into a kinder world of my own as easily as Alice fell down that rabbit hole. 

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I wrote to save my own life. Now I help others do the same. They’re not dying of terrible illnesses, but their minds are filled with stories that won’t let them rest. Their minds endlessly replay the horrors they’ve endured. Not the good stuff, that’s sitting dusty on some upper brain shelf, neglected. No, the brain likes to remind us over and over again of the bad days, the trauma, the pain. 

Writing is the best way I’ve found to get those stories to stop. Yes STOP. The stories that used to haunt me are no longer in my head, I’ve written them out and turned them into books. I’ve turned that pain into stories I find beautiful, and created meaning to the random events of my life, and found peace.

So sometimes yes, we are writing for our lives. We write to quiet our minds, to heal our hearts, to bear witness for those we’ve lost, to give voice to those oppressed and voiceless, to create meaning for ourselves and for others, and to connect and share the experiences of this bizarre rollercoaster ride that is life in all its bitter glory.

We write for the joy of creation itself. For the pleasure of expressing ourselves. Because it makes us happy. Doing anything that makes us happy right now is essential. The world needs our joy to counter all the suffering and fear-mongering, leading us only deeper into darkness. 

Joy sparks in us when we see or create something beautiful. Beauty and joy are interrelated, co-dependent in the best way. The world needs more joy, so we need more beauty. We can create that beauty in our stories or other artworks, or we can just slow down and notice the small beauties all around us. Each blade of grass, each blossom, each small perfect bird is a miracle of beauty. We, as creative artists, help others to reach towards this joy, this beauty, and through it find expression of the truths of our lives, of all life.

This is important.

Remember this: Writing may not make you rich (though we’ll keep dreaming!) but one thing I know for sure after a lifetime of writing, is that writing will enrich you beyond measure.

So write, my dear writing friends, write for your life and for us all. Has writing saved your life? Let me know in the comments.

Lots of love,

Edwina 🙂 xx

Memoir Magic in the Mountains! April 2025 Writing Retreat Rundown

Our happy campers this retreat 🙂

This retreat was something special. As I drove up the winding road deep into the forest on my way to set up, I felt a surge of joy arising. I had some familiar writing friends returning (retreataholics strike again!) but a whole lot of people I’d never even met before. So why this rush of happiness?

The pouring rain stopped as soon as participants started to arrive. Everything was blazing green and pumping with life and as writer after writer arrived, grins stretching from ear to ear, the feeling of joy within me grew. How lucky I am to be bringing such collections of wise folk together. 

We began as usual with our meet and greet, getting to know one another and the projects we’re working on. My darling chief cookie, Gay, had just received the proof copy of her memoir in the final stages before publication. Others had published before or had films successfully produced, but we also had a number of new writers keen to try out their writing legs for the first time. 

With writers from their twenties to their seventies we had a wealth of enthusiasm, energy, imagination and wisdom to draw from. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – these retreats are only as good as the people who come along, and this bunch was special. From a memoir about traveling to spiritual portals around the world, to sexual healing, to a film treatment about coming out as non-binary, to stories of grandmothers and fathers, and the damage that was done and the victories won and the paths less travelled. We had it all.

But most of all we had a special connection as a group, a warmth and understanding, a willingness to share and to listen. To let go of the world outside and sink deeply into the quiet of Kombumerri Country. 

Everyone was keen to get involved and try everything, with the biggest turn out for yoga ever! Even on Sunday for Monique’s special movement session for writers. We are so lucky to have Moniques vast knowledge of the body with us on retreats, not only for this session but for her expert bodywork treatments that leave people floating around in a happy daze for hours.

Gay created special meals filled with her loving care and nurturing, every special need catered for, every sweet-toothed craving fulfilled. My food highlight was definitely her apple crumble and custard. Or the roasted veggie salad, or the Anzac biscuits. You’re only on retreat once in a while!

Workshops were filled with laughter and questions and writing and sharing and learning and epiphanies, both for our stories and for our own healing. This is the real magic. And the greatest joy for me. When I know someone will return to their lives changed, having decided to get off the rat wheel of the crazy busyness and find time to just be. To create. To rest. To heal and live fully. That my friend is magic.

Writing may not make us rich (or it might do that too) but it sure as hell enriches our lives deeply.

Retreaters took walks down to the spring-water stream and our very own waterfall lookout, sat in the sun and read, or found places to write or stare into space and think, or watch the resident pademelons – now named – Paddy, Melon and Little Toot (that’s the pouch joey) bounce happily around despite us.

The weekend flew by until suddenly it was collage time and dreams took shape in images on the page. Hugs all round and it was time to go. But I hope I’ll see this bunch again. In such a short time we became our own mob of magic makers, writing our stories, rewriting our lives, reaching for our dreams. I miss them already.

Here’s what some retreaters had to say about their weekend.

I received so much more valuable information, inspiration, confirmation and support than I could have ever imagined. So very helpful for me as I start my writing journey. 

Sivani Maclean

Thank you so much Edwina and team for creating this beautiful atmosphere in a beautiful, natural setting. I learned a lot and enjoyed the joyful and heartfelt connection.

Hana Morris

Congratulations on a well-organised and well-run retreat. This was constantly reflected on the faces of participants who clearly enjoyed themselves and were stimulated to write and improve.

Gail Thwaite

Edwina is a great teacher and has a very friendly approachable persona with a great knowledge as a writer. Worth doing!

Marie Hayes

Coming on a Relax and Write Retreat is a true getaway, a retreat from normal life and an opportunity to broaden our perspective in the company of kindred spirits, all with stories to tell. A loving welcoming space to connect, to learn, to create.

Retreat participant

Our next Relax and Write Retreat is the Feedback and Revision Retreat AUGUST 8 – 10 2025. 

This retreat is best for those with a bit of writing under those belts, either approaching a second draft and looking for help self-editing or for those planning a full-length work. At this retreat workshops focus heavily on structure with a special session on pitching to publishers and agents. We also provide optional feedback groups to help people connect and get advice on their work. For more info see HERE. Or drop me a line for the flyer.

With big thanks and lots of love to the wonderful writers who made this retreat so special. It’s true you know, we always do have a wonderful time!

Lots of love

Edwina xx