CONQUERING WRITER ENVY

Happy woman reading

Happy Reading

 

 Writer envy starts early. You pick up a book in the bookstore, read the first page and think, “I could do better than that!”

And so you probably can. However, after spending all that time glued to your seat writing and rewriting and sending your masterpiece out, you realise the publishers who liked that book you picked up all those years ago (yes, it’s take years) aren’t interested in what you’ve got to offer.

Writer envy starts to niggle in your gullet.

Then it happens, someone from your writing group, or worse, someone from your family, gets published while your manuscript is still languishing on slush piles. Envy turns into more than a niggle, it starts to burn like poison in your guts. It tastes bitter.

It’s at this point you have a choice. You can let that bitterness flavour every book you read. “I could do better.”  “I’ll never be able to write that well.”  “I’ll never ever get published.” Or you can choose to believe that the success of others brings you closer to your own.

Envy can be a good spur to action (it got you started in the first place didn’t it?) but is a very poor master. It corrodes your writerly esteem and tarnishes the dream.

Let go of envy and try to share in the joy of the success of others. If they did it, then it’s possible for you too. When your turn at publication comes, do you want to feel that others are tearing you down, or that they are happy for you?

It all boils down to that old chestnut, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

In other words, GET OVER IT!

 Be happy that someone else has achieved their dream, because it proves they can come true. 

Then reading can be fun again.

It’s not a game of compare and contrast. It’s not a competition.

We can only write what we write and each of us has something unique to offer. Equal but different.

So, if you want to look as happy reading as the woman in the picture, let go of the angst of envy, and read for pleasure, not to find fault. Share in the success of others, be happy for them.

Don’t you love the little mouse?

I wonder if mice feel envy? “She found a bigger piece of cheese.” “His hole is bigger than mine.”

Somehow I think not. They probably just share.

Maybe that’s the opposite of envy – sharing?

Hang in there!

Mountain-Climbing-old lady

Mountain-Climbing-old lady

    Often writing and trying to get published successfully can seem like scaling the world’s tallest mountain. 

Writing as a career isn’t the easiest choice. If you have an option about whether to write or not, then don’t do it! But if, like me, everything you think  about is part of some greater story you’re compelled to write then take the following advice to heart. 

“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”

 Calvin Coolidge 

About eight years ago when I first started taking my writing seriously, this was the quote I had on my wall. The more I write, the more it rings true. I’ve seen better writers than me come and go from my writing group after finding it all too hard and quitting before they really gave themselves a chance. I’m no genius but I’m stubborn and I’ll persist and persist till I make it. 

I’m hanging in there for as long as it takes.   

“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.”  William Feather  

mountain climber gripping rocks Hanging in there 

Remember the Australian ice-skater who won his gold medal because he was the only one left standing? That’ll be me, if it has to be. 

I know now this writing game takes time. My teacher Veny Armanno wrote a novel every year for ten years before his first book (short stories!) was published. My friend Katherine Howell had been writing for over ten years when she finally caught her break. 

Sometimes people get lucky. Very lucky. But I think for them the road ahead is just as difficult, though in a different way. Those of us who serve our apprenticeship in the unpublished wilderness are free to develop our skills without time pressures, editorial constraints and marketing requirements. We also grow hides as tough as horny rhinos. 

So you writers out there, frustrated at all the work you’re doing for little or no recognition or financial return, just keep writing. Our turns will come! Don’t give up now. 

  “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” 

 Thomas Edison 

mountain climber near summit

almost there

Don’t sit down in the snow and freeze. No matter how many times that story or novel has been rejected, go through it one more time. All this persistence means your skills are improving in leaps and bounds. Redraft. Resend. And hope for the best.  

Steven King’s Carrie was in the bin before his wife scooped it out and sent it off one last time. JK Rowling was rejected all over the place. They didn’t give up. They persisted. 

And so will we. 

Photo of excited woman mountain climber on the summit

made it!